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In the name of the father

Dads want their own space on the web to talk about their larger roles in the family, says Hannah Seligson

NYTNS Published 12.05.15, 12:00 AM

A few years ago, when Avi Moskowitz wanted advice about which highchair, stroller and car seat to buy for his first child, he didn’t turn to Consumer Reports or let his wife handle the research. He posted on Daddit, a part of the social networking site Reddit that was formed in 2011 to meet the growing demand of fathers seeking their own cozy corner of the web.

“On Daddit, you get the geekier side of the Internet, where people have done technical research about why this product is better than another product, but I think it also shows that dads are taking on more roles and responsibilities when it comes to parenting,” said Moskowitz, 27, who works at a security technology company in Ridgefield Park, New Jersey. Now, he also volunteers as a moderator for Daddit, which has more than 34,000 subscribers —  almost twice that of Mommit, Reddit’s site for moms.

Copious evidence online suggests that dads want their own space there, whether public or private, to talk about their larger roles in the family. “Daddy bloggers” have earned large followings. But now there is also a growing number of Internet communities, networks, forums and email lists delving into the joys, trials and even public-policy aspects of being a father.

Famous athletes and movie stars are also using social media to share their experiences of both the banal and the larger injustices surrounding fatherhood. In March, Ashton Kutcher, who became a father last year, took umbrage at public restrooms. “There are NEVER diaper-changing stations in mens public restrooms. The first public men’s room that I go into that has one gets a free shout out on my FB page!” he posted to his millions of Facebook followers, leading to the creation of the popular hashtag #pottyparity.

And when Levs, the author of the forthcoming book “All In: How Our Work-First Culture Fails Dads, Families and Businesses - and How We Can Fix It Together,” filed a charge with the Equal Employment Opportunity Commission against Time Warner, the parent company of his employer, CNN, over its paternity-leave policy, he outlined the case on Tumblr. 

But it’s not all Sheryl Sandbergs out there rallying for equality. “About 90 percent of the posts on Daddit are those posting pictures of their cute kids,” Moskowitz, now the father of two, said. “We tried to ban pictures or say only post pictures here, but that didn’t work.”

 

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